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#emotions
A Practical Guide to Mindfulness (Tessa Watt)
Stepping back from ruminating thoughts
If you’re prone to depression, you probably have a tendency to ‘ruminate’ – to get caught up in spirals of obsessive thoughts which are hard to distinguish from facts. Through mindfulness you can learn to stay grounded in the body and to be less caught up in the mind. You can…
Adesso basta (Simone Perotti)
Arrabbiarsi nel modo giusto
«Chiunque può arrabbiarsi, questo è facile; ma arrabbiarsi con la persona giusta, e nel grado giusto, e al momento giusto, e per lo scopo giusto, e nel modo giusto: questo non è nelle possibilità di chiunque e non è facile.» Aristotele
Brain Rules for Baby (John Medina)
Romanian orphans and the window for bonding
There’s a window of several years during which babies strive to create these bonds and establish perceptions of safety. If it doesn’t happen, they can suffer long-term emotional damage. In extreme cases, they can be scarred for life. We know this because of a powerful and…
Let children see you make up after a fight
Even in an emotionally stable home, one without regular marital hostility, there will be fights. Fortunately, research shows that the amount of fighting couples do in front of their children is less damaging than the lack of reconciliation the kids observe. Many couples will…
Sleep loss makes new parents hostile
Sleep-deprived people become irritable—far more irritable—than people who are not. Subjects saddled with sleep debt typically suffer a 91 percent loss in their ability to regulate strong emotions compared with controls. The decline in general cognitive skill is equally dramatic…
Marital hostility usually starts with the woman
This may explain why, in the vast majority of cases, the increase in hostile interactions usually starts with the woman and spreads to the man.
Baby blues and postpartum depression
What to make of the transition to parenthood? We have so far outlined an experience that requires a “giving response” three times per minute, allows half the sleep you need, provides little energy for friendships, and turns issues like who takes out the garbage into divorce…
Faces give away our emotions
Paul Ekman, professor emeritus from the University of California–San Francisco, seldom misinterprets people’s faces. He has cataloged more than 10,000 possible combinations of facial expressions, creating an inventory called the Facial Action Coding System (FACS). This research…
Emotional regulation predicts cognitive performance
These data flatly state that emotional regulation—reining in impulses—predicts better cognitive performance. That’s a bombshell of an idea. It directly ties intellectual horsepower to emotional processing. I am not dismissing rote drills, as a memorized database is an extremely…
Gilbert's three kinds of happiness
One researcher who has spent many years trying to get at the answer is a delightful elf of a psychologist named Daniel Gilbert, at Harvard. Other definitions of happiness exist, of course, but Gilbert proposes these three: • Emotional happiness. This is what most of the parents…
Nice people keep their friends
After decades of research burning through millions of dollars, scientists have uncovered this shocker of a fact: We are most likely to maintain deep, long-term relationships with people who are nice. Mom was right. Individuals who are thoughtful, kind, sensitive, outward…
Emotions versus feelings
This kind of filtering is exactly what emotions do in the brain. You’re probably used to thinking of emotions as the same thing as feelings, but to the brain, they’re not. In the textbook definition, emotions are simply the activation of neurological circuits that prioritize…
Babies cry because they have no filters
By 6 months of age, a baby typically can experience surprise, disgust, happiness, sadness, anger, and fear. What babies don’t have are a lot of filters. Crying for many months remains the shortest, most efficient means of getting a parent to put a Post-it note on them. Parental…
Not every child has equal talent for empathy
Because this type of neural activity easily can be measured, it is possible to ask if every child has an equal talent for empathy. The unsurprising answer is no. Autistic children, for example, have no ability to detect changes in people’s emotional states. They simply can’t…
Temperament versus personality
Parents have known for centuries that babies come to this world with an inborn temperament. Scientist Jerome Kagan, who studied Baby 19, was the first to prove it. Human temperament is a complex, multidimensional concept—a child’s characteristic way of responding emotionally…
Attachment and what babies tag as important
In that game of peekaboo, it is obvious that the baby and his mother have already formed a reciprocating relationship. In the late 1960s, researchers coined a term to describe it: attachment. Attachment theory springs from the finding that babies come into this world preloaded…
Handling emotions predicts a child's happiness
Parents face many issues on a daily basis in the raising of kids, but not all of them affect how their children turn out. There is one that does. How you deal with the emotional lives of your children—your ability to detect, react to, promote, and provide instruction about…
Over-attentive parents smother attachment
Emotional surveillance comes with a caveat, however, for it is possible to give too much of a good thing. In the late 1980s, researchers were somewhat startled to find that when parents paid too much attention to their kids’ cues—responding to every gurgle, burp, and cough—the…
Teaching a child to name jealousy
“I don’t like it,” the 3-year-old muttered to herself as the guests left. Miserable throughout her older sister’s birthday party, she was now growing angry. “I want Ally’s doll, not this one!” Her parents had bought her a consolation present, but the strategy went down like a…
Musical training tunes emotional hearing
There’s another powerful way to fine-tune a child’s hearing for the emotional aspects of speech: musical training. Researchers in the Chicago area showed that musically experienced kids—those who studied any instrument for at least 10 years, starting before age 7—responded with…
Dismissing a child's grief over a goldfish
How might the attitudes of discouraging or ignoring emotions play out in real life? Imagine that the family goldfish, the only pet your 3-year-old son Kyle has ever known, suddenly dies. Visibly upset, Kyle mopes around the house all day, saying things like “I want fishy back!”…
Blowing off steam increases aggression
It’s a myth that releasing emotions makes everything better (that blowing your top will defuse your anger, for example). “Better out than in,” the saying goes. Almost half a century’s worth of research shows that “blowing off steam” usually increases aggression. The only time…
Human, All Too Human: A Book For Free Spirits
Religious and moral feelings are (forgotten) associations of simpler emotions
Association.—All strong feelings are associated with a variety of allied sentiments and emotions. They stir up the memory at the same time. When we are under their influence we are reminded of similar states and we feel a renewal of them within us. Thus are formed habitual…
L'imperfetta meraviglia (Andrea De Carlo)
Il sesso diventato meccanico
Milena Migliari pensa che anche il sesso tra loro ha perso il carattere improvvisato e gioioso che aveva agli inizi: è diventato una successione di azioni indirizzate al raggiungimento di uno scopo nel modo più efficiente (e rapido) possibile. L’aspetto meccanico ormai prevale…
Il giorno dopo, come dopo un incidente
Qualunque cosa le sia successa ieri, l’ha lasciata rintronata: davvero come se avesse avuto un brutto incidente e nessuno le avesse ancora fatto un quadro attendibile delle conseguenze.
La Formica Zen (italian Edition) ( )
Nessuno può farti diventare ciò che non sei
Noi pensiamo sempre che sia qualcun altro a farci arrabbiare, qualcun altro a renderci depressi. Qualcun altro a farci diventare questo o quello. Nessuno puo' farti diventare qualcosa che non sei. Questo e' cio' che un uomo di comprensione arriva a capire: tutta la faccenda non…
La rabbia è un carbone ardente
Trattenere la rabbia e il rancore è come tenere in mano un carbone ardente con ◊◊◊◊◊◊ l'intento di getterlo a qualcun altro: sei tu quello che viene bruciato" Buddha
Life, The Multiverse And Everything: An Introduction To The Ideas Of Humberto Maturana Interpreting Maturana
Six classes of conversations which we can distinguish among human interactions
Not all conversations elicit emotions, as we know . Maturana outlines a (non- exhaustive) list of six classes of conversations which we can distinguish among human interactions. These are defined in terms of differences in the pattern of coordinations of actions and emotions…
Lo Spirito del Giappone (Leonardo Vittorio Arena)
Tatemae, l'uomo di facciata
mente giapponese sembra vincolata all’elemento tatemae. Con questo termine si intende una posizione di facciata, un’attitudine ufficiale o pubblica contrapposta alla sfera privata del pensiero. Tatemae indica l’uomo sociale. Nei diversi periodi della storia del Giappone questa…
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People (Stephen R. Covey)
Listening requires emotional strength
I talked with the father and found that he was intellectually aware of what was happening. But while he admitted he had a temper problem, he refused to take responsibility for it and to honestly accept the fact that his emotional development level was low. It was more than his…
Emotional dependence in marriage
If our sense of emotional worth comes primarily from our marriage, then we become highly dependent upon that relationship. We become vulnerable to the moods and feelings, the behavior and treatment of our spouse, or to any external event that may impinge on the relationship—a…
The Acid Diaries (Christopher Gray)
Blindfold, earphones and the psychedelic language
I tripped in the bedroom again, and again had a wonderful afternoon, which I spent in almost exactly the same way—the most intense part of the trip with the blindfold and earphones, then the bath, then the walk on the Heath. In fact, from the first my tripping tended to…
Uncovering a buried sense of worthlessness
The session in which my personal story was to explode started in the same way as the others. Perhaps it was worse. Again I was twisting on the bed with the pressure building, until I thought I was going to burst. Never before had I seen nightmarish visions inside my head, but…
Nothing lived up to the promise of childhood
What happened next had me staring incredulously! First one then another of the mallards or moorhens seemed to wake up and start, jerkily at first, to move about, until they were all doing something. Around they went, pecking and waddling, the swimming moorhens making that…
Resistance to feeling on acid
Hurriedly I looked for one of our son . . . and, yes, that one worked. Taken when he had lost his front tooth, it went straight to my heart. I turned the pages of the album, and all the photos of him had the same sparkling, happy quality . . . though they didn’t suck me into…
Becoming the daffodil
I was horrified to see tiny bugs crawling up the flower’s stem. I looked more closely. They were not bugs, but very small droplets of moisture moving by capillary action up the inside of the stem. I realized with shock that I could only be seeing this because I had X-ray…
A childhood illness as root trauma
The CD played out, so it must have been the best part of an hour—then abruptly several disparate pieces of information jigsawed themselves together. Suddenly I knew that I had been very seriously ill as a young child when I was living at Windle Hey. Perhaps it was bronchitis…
The Book: On The Taboo Against Knowing Who You Are
God the Father has become ridiculous
Frankly, the image of God the Father has become ridiculous—that is, unless you read Saint Thomas Aquinas or Martin Buber or Paul Tillich, and realize that you can be a devout Jew or Christian without having to believe, literally, in the Cosmic Male Parent. Even then, it is…
The Ego Trick (baggini, Julian)
State-dependent memory
In support of this claim, Carter cites a very powerful weapon: empirical evidence. One of her biggest guns is state-dependent memory. ‘In different mind-states one does not have access to the same bag of memories, and that has been demonstrated in a lot of quite clever studies…
Eskimo emotions depend on community
‘Eskimo emotional states appear to be much more socially dependent than ours. Isolated Eskimos, in so far as they can be observed, seem to be stolid, neither cheerful nor depressed. But once they become part of a community (a family, say) they quickly take on the emotional tone…
Descartes' error: emotion supports reason
The legacy of Descartes has also come under attack in neuroscience, explicitly so in the case of Antonio Damasio, who called one of his books Descartes’ Error. Damasio’s target is not just the general separation of mind and body, but the distinction between reason and emotion…
A good mood makes people nicer
More likely is that, as other experiments have suggested, being put in a good mood, even by something small, makes people temporarily nicer. Character has nothing to do with it.
The Functional Art: An Introduction To Information Graphics And Visualization
The purpose of visualization is insight, not pictures
Graphics, charts, and maps aren’t just tools to be seen, but to be read and scrutinized. The first goal of an infographic is not to be beautiful just for the sake of eye appeal, but, above all, to be understandable first, and beautiful after that; or to be beautiful thanks to…
Theories of Childhood, Second Edition (Carol Garhart Mooney)
Piaget's cognitive stages and Erikson's emotional ones
Nonetheless, Piaget’s stages of cognitive development have created our overall view of how children think in their early years, just as Erikson’s stages of psychosocial development have helped us understand how children develop emotionally.