Michele Pasin / Quotes

Warm, explained rules earn committed compliance

Overall, a clear picture emerges about how to raise well-adjusted, moral children. Parents whose rules issue from warm acceptance and whose rationales are consistently explained end up being perceived as reasonable and fair, rather than as capricious and dictatorial. They are most likely to evince from their kids committed compliance rather than committed defiance.

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#rules #morality #parents #children

Befuddled adults, befuddled children

Instead of giving our children clear and explicit explanations of the game-rules of the community, we befuddle them hopelessly because we—as adults—were once…

The Book: On The Taboo Against Knowing Who You Are #game #children #explanation #rules

Toddlers also need firm limits

At the same time, they need consistent, firm, reassuring limits set by caring adults.

Theories of Childhood, Second Edition (Carol Garhart Mooney) #rules #autonomy #children

Adults who do too much for children

It is clear that Montessori had strong feelings about the tendency of adults to undermine children’s competence by doing too much for them. She used the word…

Theories of Childhood, Second Edition (Carol Garhart Mooney) #autonomy #parents #children #maturity

Daily behavior betrays how we feel

pressing problems, immediate concerns, and outward behaviors. I become reactive. And the way I interact with my children every day often bears little…

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People (Stephen R. Covey) #parents #children #feelings #behavior

Family as a center undermines the family

Another common center is the family. This, too, may seem to be natural and proper. As an area of focus and deep investment, it provides great opportunities…

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People (Stephen R. Covey) #family #parents #children #identity

Focusing on what we couldn't control

As long as we focused our efforts on those things, we accomplished nothing, except to increase our own feelings of inadequacy and helplessness and to…

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People (Stephen R. Covey) #parents #control #children